This is a blog is first and foremost a blog about my journey with my sons autism. It's also about my family and our day to day lives.
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
You just can't tell
Today was one of those days when I think about the fact that you don't have to look a certain way to have autism.
We were at Safeway doing a little shopping. It was just Parker and Macey and I until Bobby showed up. Macey was whining a lot because it was getting late and she was tired. She also wanted to walk but I wasn't having that either. I can't chase her and push the cart too. Parker was upset that I wasn't letting her do or have whatever she wanted. He just wanted her to be happy and not whine. I had to explain through half the store why I can't give her everything she wants.
Finally we got to the checkout and were in line. Macey was whining because she wanted out again and she wanted to go home. I told Parker he could go over by the movies and look at them until I got done paying. Then Bobby showed up. My rescuer was there, lol. He stood with Macey and kept an eye on Parker.
While I was checking out Macey started crying because she wanted to get out and be by Parker. We told her no because Bobby didn't want to go over there. Parker heard her and started cringing and closing his eyes. An elderly lady came by and asked him if he was ok. He wouldn't answer her. Bobby saw her and said, "He's just shy". He must have not been thinking he was upset. The lady looked worried but walked out. I would have said he was ok but that he had autism and didn't like his sister crying.
Afer the lady walked out I started imagining what she was thinking. I guess it's none of my business, lol. When we got to car Parker was fine because he was going to ride with Bobby. I saw the elderly lady in a van across from us. I wished she would have talked to me so I could have told her why he was upset. Really, why did I care. I guess if I saw a child cringing and closing his eyes, I would worry about them too.
To make a long story short, Parker looks like a typical kid but he doesn't have typical fears. I guess I'll never know what that lady thought or was thinking. She'll never know that he is a very loved, adored child that just gets emotional from time to time. Yes, he is ok. Sorry for the ramble, it just made me think.